harrisonsdream
08-31-2007, 12:15 PM
Dear Abby
Marriage, literally, is out of the question
By ABBY
Universal Press Syndicate
Dear Abby:
My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years (minus five months separated). Whenever the subject of marriage comes up, he says, "Whenever you want to ask." In other words, he's putting the responsibility on me! I am old-fashioned when it comes to proposals, Abby. I think the man should ask.
Do you think he's putting the responsibility on me because he knows I won't ask and he doesn't want to commit? I have one child from a previous relationship, and I would like more. I am only 28, but I don't want to be having kids 10 years from now.
Oh yeah, we are looking at houses to buy together. How can I tell if he will ever "pop the question" or if it's a lost cause?
TIFFANY in Texas
Dear Tiffany:
With a child from a previous relationship and house-hunting with your current boyfriend, you may not be as "old-fashioned" as you think.
At the risk of sounding like a party-pooper, I am urging you to think long and hard about pooling your money to buy real estate with anyone until you have an attorney to look out for your financial interests.
At the pace your romance is going, it's fair to assume that your boyfriend is in no hurry to rush to the altar. It could be years before he gets around to it — if ever. So lay it on the line, call his bluff, and hope his answer is yes.
Dear Abby:
I just turned 20, and my mother won't let me go. She wouldn't allow me to get my driver's license and has gone so far as to "lose" all my important documents. She will not let me obtain new ones or even get an ID to get a job.
All I want to do is have a job and some freedom. I am not even allowed to leave the house without her permission. I have to stay home all day to wake her up to go to work, then wait until she gets home to cook her dinner and wait on her hand and foot — without even a "thank you" or an "I love you." What can I do to make her let me go?
FED-UP CINDERELLA in Georgia
Dear Fed-Up Cinderella:
The first thing you should do is discuss your mother's obsessive hold on you with your clergyman and find out if someone from the church can give you a place to transition to. If that's not possible, contact a domestic violence shelter in a larger city than the one you live in — because in a sense, your mother's behavior is a form of domestic violence.
Marriage, literally, is out of the question
By ABBY
Universal Press Syndicate
Dear Abby:
My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years (minus five months separated). Whenever the subject of marriage comes up, he says, "Whenever you want to ask." In other words, he's putting the responsibility on me! I am old-fashioned when it comes to proposals, Abby. I think the man should ask.
Do you think he's putting the responsibility on me because he knows I won't ask and he doesn't want to commit? I have one child from a previous relationship, and I would like more. I am only 28, but I don't want to be having kids 10 years from now.
Oh yeah, we are looking at houses to buy together. How can I tell if he will ever "pop the question" or if it's a lost cause?
TIFFANY in Texas
Dear Tiffany:
With a child from a previous relationship and house-hunting with your current boyfriend, you may not be as "old-fashioned" as you think.
At the risk of sounding like a party-pooper, I am urging you to think long and hard about pooling your money to buy real estate with anyone until you have an attorney to look out for your financial interests.
At the pace your romance is going, it's fair to assume that your boyfriend is in no hurry to rush to the altar. It could be years before he gets around to it — if ever. So lay it on the line, call his bluff, and hope his answer is yes.
Dear Abby:
I just turned 20, and my mother won't let me go. She wouldn't allow me to get my driver's license and has gone so far as to "lose" all my important documents. She will not let me obtain new ones or even get an ID to get a job.
All I want to do is have a job and some freedom. I am not even allowed to leave the house without her permission. I have to stay home all day to wake her up to go to work, then wait until she gets home to cook her dinner and wait on her hand and foot — without even a "thank you" or an "I love you." What can I do to make her let me go?
FED-UP CINDERELLA in Georgia
Dear Fed-Up Cinderella:
The first thing you should do is discuss your mother's obsessive hold on you with your clergyman and find out if someone from the church can give you a place to transition to. If that's not possible, contact a domestic violence shelter in a larger city than the one you live in — because in a sense, your mother's behavior is a form of domestic violence.