We were watching the news the other day, and I think the Jessica Lundsford trial was on... DS asked me what rape is.. :shrug :freakout

He's eight... I think I'm going to hold off the whole reproduction thing until he's a bit older....

Whadda you guys think?

I explained rape as when someone holds you down and abuses and hurts your private parts and butthole.. :dunno Do you think I did alright?? Did I miss anything?

I think you handled that very well & at a good level for him to comprehend hun:yes

i think you did alright.

i think as for the sex talk, once they start asking the questions is the time to sit down and have a formal discussion but there should be mini discussions on and off

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Once they ask, its time IMO...and I think you answered honestly and at his level. :hugs good job mom!

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Once they ask, its time IMO...and I think you answered honestly and at his level. :hugs good job mom!

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I agree with when they ask that it is time. I think you did a good job, but I would sit down again with him and explain the difference between sex and rape if he doesn't already know that, since I can imagine it might all be a little confusing at that age

I always heard just answer the questions they ask until you think they are ready for the full blown talk.

i'm not a parent but...
I don't think there should be "a talk."
It should be an on going dialog. Not just talk, but a general attitude of there is nothing shameful about it, so everyone should feel comfortable talking about it.
For instance, I don't have kids, so its comfortable for me to give advice. :)

i'm not a parent but...
I don't think there should be "a talk."
It should be an on going dialog. Not just talk, but a general attitude of there is nothing shameful about it, so everyone should feel comfortable talking about it.
For instance, I don't have kids, so its comfortable for me to give advice. :)

I kind of agree with this and I have a kid. I think there should be a formal talk, but at the same time you need to keep it an ongoing dialog. I want my son to be able to come to me or DF when he has issues or questions about it. If he is active then I want to know that he is using condoms and not getting girls pregnant... if I end up having a daughter I want to be able to get her on BC... its not something you want to happen, but I want to be the one my kids come to when it does... :dunno I just don't want him to feel he can't talk to me about things.

i think you did a good job of explaining things to him on his level.

i think i had the "sex talk" with my mom when they said we were going to have sex ed in school, what 3rd grade? she explained things to me before they did in school i guess she thought i needed her version first? i don't even remember what she said. i agree with the above posts that once he is asking it's time to talk about things.

ive asked db about his "sex talk" before and he never had one. basically he got what he got in school, said he could ask his dad if he wanted, but mostly just followed his older brother's actions...and said his parents always told him to always wear a condom...great sex talk...:giggle

ive asked db about his "sex talk" before and he never had one. basically he got what he got in school, said he could ask his dad if he wanted, but mostly just followed his older brother's actions...and said his parents always told him to always wear a condom...great sex talk...:giggle

Yeah I never had the sex talk either... just the one from school. Maybe thats why I had a kid at 17 :giggle
My coworker said his mother (a single mom) left books on his bed when he was like 12 or 13 talking about it... :giggle so thats how he learned...

Ohhhh man I don't even want to think about that yet.