Ok... so, my boyfriend and I are planning on getting married and moving to overseas (he has orders to report in November for the next 3 years). His friend that already is stationed there is getting a divorce and asked my bf if we wanted to move in with him. I guess he has a 3 bedroom place and we could move right in. At first, I was fine with it... but now I'm worried about being a newly wed couple and having to live with another person in our house. Do you think it will take time away from the two of us? Will it start getting annoying having an "extra" person in the house when I just want to be with my husband? Should I "try it out" for a while and then if it's not working have the two of us move out? His wife, soon to be ex, cheated on him when on TDY. I guess I'm also afraid they'll get back together and I REALLY do not want to live with her - I've only met her a handful of times, and she's quite annoying and boring. It would be nice to have a place to move right into and not stress about finding a place in the short amt. of time the military gives you. I'm going to talk to my bf this weekend when I see him, but I was wondering what everyone thinks about a newly wed couple living with another guy? Thanks!!

Three's always a crowd. If I was you, I wouldn't move in with him unless it was a) temporary or b) financially necessary. My newlywed brother and his wife made the mistake of sharing an apartment with one of the guys in his unit. It led to conflict. He was always sloppy and smelly.

First, I would be concerned about you being command sponsored. You're not married yet, so he can't really take you overseas.....and since he's leaving in November.......that's a very short time to get that paperwork in place.

I would opt for Base Housing overseas - then you will have no worries about the cost of living changes. If it was a temporary situation with staying with this friend, then I MIGHT consider it - but only until housing opened up.

First, I would be concerned about you being command sponsored. You're not married yet, so he can't really take you overseas.....and since he's leaving in November.......that's a very short time to get that paperwork in place.

I would opt for Base Housing overseas - then you will have no worries about the cost of living changes. If it was a temporary situation with staying with this friend, then I MIGHT consider it - but only until housing opened up.

i agree

First, I would be concerned about you being command sponsored. You're not married yet, so he can't really take you overseas.....and since he's leaving in November.......that's a very short time to get that paperwork in place.

I would opt for Base Housing overseas - then you will have no worries about the cost of living changes. If it was a temporary situation with staying with this friend, then I MIGHT consider it - but only until housing opened up.

:agree It was a nightmare getting everything for our overseas overs done and getting me command sponsored.

Good Questions... are you going to be command sponsored in time?
Also, where we live you get base housing, have to live in it if you have a dependent.
I don't think I'm understanding the situation here.

We did this for the first 1 1/2 years of our marriage.

My advice...........don't do it you don't have to!!!!

Ok... so, my boyfriend and I are planning on getting married and moving to overseas (he has orders to report in November for the next 3 years). His friend that already is stationed there is getting a divorce and asked my bf if we wanted to move in with him. I guess he has a 3 bedroom place and we could move right in. At first, I was fine with it... but now I'm worried about being a newly wed couple and having to live with another person in our house. Do you think it will take time away from the two of us? Will it start getting annoying having an "extra" person in the house when I just want to be with my husband? Should I "try it out" for a while and then if it's not working have the two of us move out? His wife, soon to be ex, cheated on him when on TDY. I guess I'm also afraid they'll get back together and I REALLY do not want to live with her - I've only met her a handful of times, and she's quite annoying and boring. It would be nice to have a place to move right into and not stress about finding a place in the short amt. of time the military gives you. I'm going to talk to my bf this weekend when I see him, but I was wondering what everyone thinks about a newly wed couple living with another guy? Thanks!!


Sounds like you should get housing on your own. But given that you aren't married yet... does he have unaccompanied orders? My DH wasn't married when he got his orders and they are unaccompanied. :dunno