what was the day your dh/df/db told you about the deployment like?


i went into preterm labor at two in the morning i was only 26 weeks along and had to go to the hospital and once the labor was stopped i had to go to the airport to catch a flight cross country to another base to testify in a trial..turns out the military never finished the transaction on my ticket so i had to wait to fly out till the next day after breaking down in the middle of the airport i went home took a nap and woke up to rick calling saying i knew with our luck this would happen today...im deploying two weeks after your due date....ahh the life of a military wife.....gotta laugh about it now!


come on ladies lets hear yours!!

Um well I actually I found out the first time that he was deploying while he was in JRTC, I heard it on the news... dont you just love that...

But then he called me and told me, and then the date got moved so many times, that I cant even remember,.

i got it via text...how wonderful...it didn't even seem real, and i pretty much went into hardcore denial for a while...especially when there was an extra month tacked on that wasn't supposed to be there...but that has since been changed too :giggle

i got it via text...how wonderful...it didn't even seem real, and i pretty much went into hardcore denial for a while...especially when there was an extra month tacked on that wasn't supposed to be there...but that has since been changed too :giggle

Im still in denial and its going on lol

Im still in denial and its going on lol

psh i've been in denial since april..i told him that i would just tell myself he was still in texas(he was there to train for a few weeks before he left for the sandbox) and now that i only have two months left i think i'm finally accepting hes overseas...its the easiest way to get through this crap!

psh i've been in denial since april..i told him that i would just tell myself he was still in texas(he was there to train for a few weeks before he left for the sandbox) and now that i only have two months left i think i'm finally accepting hes overseas...its the easiest way to get through this crap!


Yeah since i moved home for this deployment, it really feels like im just living here like i did before we got married.. that he is still in ny and im here.. just less communication

he he i know i feel like im single agian sometimes....so sad...

he he i know i feel like im single agian sometimes....so sad...


exactly..:sadeyes

i tell my friends im pretty much a single mommy that doesnt have to bother looking for a date..i think they kinda pity me...and think ive lost my mind cuz i dont cry about it anymore i kinda laugh...maybe i have gone crazy but id rather laugh then cry...now i just cry thinking about when i get to see him agian

There were so many different times that they were going to deploy. First my boyfriend told me he was going to deploy in July then they cancelled that. Then they were going to deploy in January or Feb, which he wouldn't have had to go because he was done with the army in November. But then decided on September for sure. What a heartbreak it was :unlove But now that he's gone it feels like I'm single again. But at the same time I can't do anything with anyone. Which is good that way I can focus on my school and career.

I had known he was going to deploy from about April this year and the longest we had gone without talking was about 11 days when he went out on some training. I was with my family in florida though so I was really busy and distracted. It's hard now but thank godness for school and such. I would think I would be more at ease now...no pun intended....but how do you ever get used to the love of your life being gone?

No wonder he has NO interest in re-enlisting. I can't wait for him to get out so we can be togther and move on with our life.

Im still in denial and its going on lol

He is leaving in January and I am also still in denial :eek

I started crying and got really upset so I called out sick at work and went to the mall and spent a whole bunch of money. hopping always makes me feel better.

The first time he told me about deploying was in February, but I was in denial as well for a loooooooooooong time, then he told me about his extention in April, and i just fell all to pieces, the last time I saw him was the end of May, and then he called a few days later and said he was about to leave............

I started crying and got really upset so I called out sick at work and went to the mall and spent a whole bunch of money. hopping always makes me feel better.

thee day he left he told me i had a limit of two hundred dollars and i only spent fifty everything made me cry there was a bib in babies r us that said my daddy is my hero and i broke down in the middle of the store..oh so sad

We were sitting in the Verizon store trying to figure out what was wrong with his phone when he told me. He was home on leave and had on an army t-shirt. The guy sitting next to us was a Korean vet and was really sweet. He thanked him for his service and told him he'd pray for him. DB got really quiet after that...I knew something was on his mind. A few minutes later he just blurted it out. (This was in March before the announced extensions) He said he was supposed to deploy in May probably closer to June. I guess it was almost better that he did it in public because I didn't turn into a leaky mess (We have a joke that we don't cry we spring a leak...nothing a little laughter or a good plumber can't fix). After extensions were announced his deployment was pushed back...here we are 4 months and 6 new dates after his first expected deployment..hes been gone 2 weeks and I have finally stopped leaking (at least for today)...

He came home from work and gave me a kiss then went in the room and said "baby I'm getting deployed to Iraq" I said I knew it and that was that. he told me in Feb and left in Aug.

Well, it's not a sure thing yet, but pretty close to sure. He told me two days ago that it might happen, and then yesterday that he was at the top of the eligibility list. I was shocked and first and have definitely cried a little. I am told my roommates and their support has been great. I am scared for him, but very supportive. He really wants to be deployed at this time, while I'm in school, rather than while I'm out of school and back home. It will be hard I know but I spent yesterday coping and have found the strength to stand behind him, always.

The one that sticks out in my mind the most was his 2nd deployment, when he went to Iraq. We were decorating our Christmas tree and the news came on, top story was Rumsfeld's visit to Ft Bragg that day...and than they showed a clip of a speech he made while there, announcing my DH's unit's deployment to Iraq in 3 weeks. Hubby laughed about it, said he was sure it wasn't true(since there'd been nothing in the works) went to work the next day and was told it was true, and that he could sign out on 10 days leave that evening. He called me at work, and I broke down and had to go home for the rest of the day, plus they granted me the time off for his leave no questions asked.

Well, the first one was quick - the LT called and said "Where are you" and he said "My livingroom, Sir." Mix up between Battalion & the Center -- so the call was Friday and they thought that they would be nice & not make him leave until Monday...yes ladies...3 days. No clue it was coming - so he called me at work and told me. Which was not good either - yet, with the situation it was what he could do.

This one, well - we had an idea it was coming. Yet, we all know that it never makes it easy to adjust. He told me when I got home from work - he was really great. Grabbed my hand and said "lets take a walk."

With his deployment last year we had been talking about the rumers so it was no big supprise when he came home and told me he was leaving.

For this deployment, he called me while he was still on the last deployment and told me that they were leaving again for most of this year... needless to say I had an emotional breakdown.

Here he was still deployed and talking about the next one. I wish they were home. When he gets home we will have 2 deployments in just as many years. :sigh

I am dreading. :sadeyes

Well, when I started dating my DB he mentioned to me that they may have to go. I just assumed that it wouldnt happen. That was in January. In late February one of his friends told him they were putting up lists at work. I had to keep reminding him to go check and see if he was on the list. He kept saying he prob. wasnt on the list. Well on March 5th I got a Text message saying 'I am on the list.' I was at work and when I got it I immediately went outside to smoke a cigarette (awful habit). I tried to call him and he didn't answer because he was at work also. I was really upset, and I had a million questions...like WHEN would he be leaving. That night he told me sometime in September or late August. Then as each month went by and his friends were talking more and more about it, I got more and more upset. He has been gone for less than a week now, and since June I have cried about it once a week at least. I had a lot of warning and it still sucks. My DB and I were talking about it, and we think it may be better to just have it sprung on you and then you go. That way it doesnt linger. I Feel like I have been dealing with his deployment forever.... They changed the actual date that he was leaving about 4 times, within the same 2 week span. When they told him he had to get on the bus to leave me in the hanger on base I lost it...I kept saying I wasn't ready and that he can't leave me, I need him here and my birthday is in 2 weeks can't he stay until then and what about Christmas and our one year anniversary....I feel so stupid and selfish about all of that....I just want my best friend back.

Umm.. awkward. Our nosy roommate (that we don't even speak to anymore because she is a total bitch) was home too when he got the call. So he told us right after he hung up the phone. And she starts bawling. Me and DB just kind of looked at each other... like what? And then I think we did ittttttttttttttttttt :lol

I started dating my guy at the end of last December. He knew he would be deploying soon before we even met, and he told me about 5 days after our first date. It was kind of a shocker! At the point when he told me, I did NOT see us being together when he left, especially as I'd known him less than two weeks when I found out, and I didn't know ANYTHING about the military or long-distance relationships. I flat out told him that I couldn't see myself waiting that long for someone I'd only known for 3.5 months (how long he had at the time before he left for pre-deployment training). He asked me to just give him 3 months and then see where we were then, so I did...and somewhere in there he managed to win me over :wub But anyway, the point of all that is that it was hanging over our heads pretty much from the start of our relationship!

Well there were so many rumors for at least a year, I swear, so i wasnt suprised at all when we got the official call. They kept changing the dates on us so many times, I started to not believe it.
So were all outside playing in the backyard and hubby's cell phone rings and its hubby's Sgt. saying its official, thier leaving at the beginning of the year and informed him of all the training dates ahead. I wanted to break down, but I just stayed silent:sigh, we had talked so much about him leaving over the past year, I felt like there wasnt anything really to say.
It actually didnt really hit me until we dropped him off at the aiport a few weeks ago for some training and he was actually gone and when we picked him up last Monday, all the guys were togather talking about Iraq, and I was like wow, this is really happening, the date has changed a few more times since then, but we now have offical orders for 400 days, not including training:censored

Um he was suppose to deploy the day i was going back to school... that would not have been a great time . but with all the wonderful fantastical quirks of the military they changed his deployment a week earlier. so that was super too. he was gone for 3 weeks in training with no contact whatsoever, the week he got back was the week i was going on family vacation and i was in the mountains with no reception, then the last day of vacation is when he left... but at least we got to talk for a little bit. he was actually at an airport only about 45 minutes away from me in bangor maine, and i felt so freaking bad i wanted to go out there and steal him from his squadron and run to canada.