uh the title should say paranoia sets in LOL OK so my man and I have been together for about 10 months but for almost 6 of those he has been deployed or training for deployment. We talk about my relocating to live with him when he is back home and I love him more than I have loved anyone BUT I am totally starting to feel like he might not be as in love as I am. I sent him an email that said that he "was the love of my life" His response "How do you know I am the love of your life. I'm just curious...." OK so how does anyone ever know that for sure?? I think I know men, and if he shared in that sentiment he would have reciprocated my statement not questioned it, right? I'm starting to think I am putting too much pressure on him and I don't want to do that. Any thoughts? I love this man to death and I am so afraid that he will start to pull away with the distance and stress that comes with a deployment relationship.

You could try giving him the benefit of the doubt and answer his question. He may not know and needs to hear it. Remember when they deploy they are in a different frame of mind too. He might have his guard up.

He might just be looking for romantic nice words. He might just want to hear it. I know we do it as women all the time, well tell me how, or why... we want them to say the romantic drawn out reasoning, he might just want the same thing.

Elaborate for him! Sometimes to gain you have to put yourself out there. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all right!

My DH is just as needy as I am when it comes to words to make him feel appreciate and confident in our relationship.

db does this to me because of his own insecurities if he says he loves me and i say really in a joking way he gets really upset "you dont think i love you" if hes been hurt in the past maybe thats why? elaborate for him i agree with everyone else he might just need to hear it:)

Just answer his question. Maybe he's looking for reassurance.

I know my hubster and I do it sometimes...its nice to hear and makes me feel good.