So before he left, he told me that he was going to have a really hard time not being physical with anyone. And basically told me that it was going to happen, he said he coudl probably wait like three months, and then one night it would just happen. Now he is saying that if he really loved me, that he wouldn't be with other girls, and so he says he's not going to. I'm not sure what to think, do the rules change when they leave??

Hell no they don't. If your with me it's only me I don't care how horny you are thats what God made lotion and your hand for.

Ummm no . . . the rules certainly don't change for you and they shouldn't for him either. Just because you are not together physically doesn't mean you aren't together!

Hell no they don't. If your with me it's only me I don't care how horny you are thats what God made lotion and your hand for.

I agree 100%

I would have smoke coming out of my ears if he said that to me.

rules dont change wherever you are. Is this your husband, or your boyfriend or what?

And welcome to the site..

Do the rules change? HELL NO
Do I still worry about it sometimes? YES. Not so much right now, because he's at basic and probably doesn't have the chance to if he wanted to, but even when he's home, we're at a distance until i graduate, and i'll admit, i let it worry me sometimes. yes.

Rules definitely don't change. I love him way to much to even think of being with someone else...and he would never do that to me...We know each other so well and we love each other way to much to do that. But I do send him naughty pics as a reminder of whats waiting for him when he comes home. He loves it...makes him love me more cause he knows I dont do those things just for anyone.
Your love him and his love for you should be strong enough to go through this. And its not just love its respect and a commitment to the other person.

If my husband ever said that to me, we would be signing divorce papers!!! The rules DEFINATLY do NOT change!!!

um no the rules dont change sorry sweetie i agree with the rest of the girls

NO they don't change. DB appreciates beauty as much as the next person but he would never GO THERE. It's about mutual respect and commitment....and in all honesty I couldn't be with anyone else. I would feel like I was going to :pukey

He wouldn't ever think of saying something like that to me (thank God) so I don't have to come up with creative ideas about how I'd have to kill him... :teehee

If my husband ever said that to me, we would be signing divorce papers!!! The rules DEFINATLY do NOT change!!!
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No the rules do not change, OMG if my DH said that to me I would have chopped his thingy off.

is he fuckin serious?!

rules dont change wherever you are. Is this your husband, or your boyfriend or what?

And welcome to the site..

Right now he is my boyfriend, but I am flying over to Germany the first week in October, and he just had my send pictures of rings I like and stuff, so I am thinking soon to be engaged....

Ohh noo rules do not change!! I would kick my bf's ass if he said that.. hmm..and yes i worry sometimes but its just because i have been in bad relationships in the past and my bf has cheated in the past, so the thought is always in the back of my head, but i really think he wouldnt because he loves me a lot and I can tell.

The rules do not change and I would be rethinking this relationship if I was you. Obviously he already said he will cheat. I agree with Crystal here, divorce papers would be in one hand and a butcher knife in the other for his dick.

Welcome to the site. Can you tell us some more about yourself?

DH would be thrown for a beat down if he ever said that to me!! They have hands and toys to help him overcome the physical thing. Just because some guys feel the need to stick their dicks in a nasty ho doesn't mean it's a good idea.

Thats a load of Sh*t!!! if he loves you and respects you he will make it his business that it WONT happen. ask him whether that applies to you. whether you can "just get physical" with someone after three months.
Any guy who would say that is not ready for a serious relationship.

Db an I have a crazy sex life (when he's home) He won't take the chance to have some thing with another girl if that meens loosing what we have.

I don't worry, because I trust my husband...but it's a fear at times, yes. AIT is like summer camp, tons of free time and just as many girls there as guys. Lots of his buddies are hooking up with the female PVTs on the weekends, etc.
According to my deployed loved ones, it happens over there, too. Much easier to hook up with another soldier than a civilian.

Unfortunately that is one bad side effect of so many women in the military, (the ONLY one I see). Sucks.

You just have to trust your man!!!! If you don't...why are you with him?

If my husband could not keep his thing for himself while gone he would definitley NOT be my husband.
Your bf is military so he will be away from you lots of times. I don't think I would be happy knowing that "after 3months" he might give in and be with someone else. Where is the respect and love in this relationship? I'm sorry but unless you both agree with this and are in the same page it would be unaceptable if it was me.

oh Hell no! If my husband said that to me his ass would be out the door, his dick would be bobbitized, and I'd take him for everything he has in divorce court. The rules don't change because of distance!

Wow. I can't imagine even being with someone who would have such little respect for me. There's no way.

um, can someone please kick this boy in the nuts??? seriously.

If my husband ever said that to me, we would be signing divorce papers!!! The rules DEFINATLY do NOT change!!!

:agree

Honestly if my boyfriend every said that to me I would be out! The relationship would be over.

oh hell no they dont change!!! thats not right hun!

Hell no they don't. If your with me it's only me I don't care how horny you are thats what God made lotion and your hand for.

yep

Hell no they don't. If your with me it's only me I don't care how horny you are thats what God made lotion and your hand for.

:hehe :yes

Wow, just wow. I would FLIP out if my SO ssaid that shit to me. HELL NO the rules dont change when they leave. Eff that.

As the other women have said - hell no the rules don't change! I can't imagine my DH saying anything like that, I'd be furious.
I didn't worry when he was deployed, and I don't worry now.

The rules of respect NEVER change! Not for a DB, parent, co-worker....I don't who the F you are, you don't blatently disrespect me. That's what this is really about. I hope he was just mouthing off to you, cause I would hate to think that he is seriously that way.

Also, I think that the doubt is just a part of this lifestyle. I feel bery secure with my DB, by I let myself get carried away and then have to slap myself back in the here an now. Not what I had ever dealt with before.

Just because he's in another Country, State, zip code, area code..what have you does not give him the freedom to have sex with whomever he pleases just because he can't "wait". Send him a box of tissues and a bottle of lube... and tell him to meet his new girlfriend for the next 90-days Rosey Palms.

Since he already told you that in 3 months and 1 day he is going to fuck the first girl that comes along, I wouldn't wait. Find yourself a new guy who truly does love you and respects you as a person.

Ummm no . . . the rules certainly don't change for you and they shouldn't for him either. Just because you are not together physically doesn't mean you aren't together!

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Not everyone feels the need to cheat when they are away from their SO.:rolleyes If he does not feel he can stay faithful then he needs to rethink a relationship. JMO

wow..hell no the rules dont change..and same as above..i would kick his ass..haha..imo he was stupid for saying that..he shouldnt be thinking about any other girl besides u.

Hell no they don't. If your with me it's only me I don't care how horny you are thats what God made lotion and your hand for.

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Heck no they don't. DH knows that if he crossed that line I would be outta the relationship FAST. His desire isn't other women it's me... as he says, if he wanted to be a bachelor and single he would have never wanted to hook up. :blush

Oh my God. Rules don't change of course. Ask him what would he think if you also need to have physical contact with somebody else... crazy!

Right now he is my boyfriend, but I am flying over to Germany the first week in October, and he just had my send pictures of rings I like and stuff, so I am thinking soon to be engaged....


You plan on marrying a guy who says that he can't be faithful? You really need to evalute your relationship, because you are heading down a path of destruction and hurt. I'd seriously kick his teeth out. You obviously don't have any self respect if you are going to put up with that. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT!

Uh no. Cheating is still cheating no matter how long they've been gone. You are nicer than me though. If DB even mentioned that... :grumpy:slap:rant:madwife:fight It would be on!

If my husband ever even suggested that he would even THINK about laying his hands on another woman, he'd be :shoot

But, no, I don't worry. I used to, but I guess I've gotten old and more secure. I really don't worry because I know that he knows he's got it good and he'd never do anything to mess that up.