So I finally got a message on myspace from DB. But it wasn't good. He was basically saying goodbye. I don't think he thinks he's going to make it home. He was saying things like "I can't talk about what's going on here but I just wanted to let you know that I love you more than anyone else in the world and I hope I get to spend the rest of my life with you" and "I'll call you if things go ok" :shock:no:tears I yelled at him via message when I got that. I told him not to say things like that and that if he loved me at all he'd hold on and make it home. Things are getting really bad over there. :sadeyes Have any of y'alls SOs started saying their goodbyes "just in case"? That completely caught me off guard after not hearing from him in a week.

:( He is probably just really scared. Hang in there and just TRY to be as positive as possible for him. I think they all go over there scared and probably stay scared the whole time they're gone, even if they can't or don't ever tell anyone. Just try to be there for him. He REALLY needs you right now, even if he doesn't come out and say it. Talk about everything in a way like you KNOW it will happen... not "If" I see you, but WHEN i see you... not "If" we get married and have babies, but WHEN we do... keep his chin up for him because it sounds like he definitely needs it right now.

That pic in your sig.... :sadeyes Lots of emotion in that one :(

OMG I am so sorry. I will keep you guys in my :pray! I wish I had powers to take all the troops from Iraq. They all should come home. What is his job in the military?

my DF calls used to call before patrol to say i love you, and basically "goodbye if anything happens"...now his command won't let him do that anymore, but i think he liked hearing "i love you too, babe" just in case...it's hard, but i knew it was something he needed, so i just did it

OMG I am so sorry. I will keep you guys in my :pray! I wish I had powers to take all the troops from Iraq. They all should come home. What is his job in the military?

He's in infantry. He's switching to mechanics in July but that's so far away. :sigh I just hope they don't redeploy him before his training (which he said they might do). At least mechanics is safer.

sweetie Im right there with you, my hubby is infantry and just left. Just try to think positive and stay busy. I know its hard. Its something you will think about everyday. My thoughts are with you

I am sorry... I am here for you guys. Mine is a computer information specialist. I will keep you in my thoughts. Hoping time goes by fast for you so he can switch his job!!!!!! When does he come home?

:( He is probably just really scared. Hang in there and just TRY to be as positive as possible for him. I think they all go over there scared and probably stay scared the whole time they're gone, even if they can't or don't ever tell anyone. Just try to be there for him. He REALLY needs you right now, even if he doesn't come out and say it. Talk about everything in a way like you KNOW it will happen... not "If" I see you, but WHEN i see you... not "If" we get married and have babies, but WHEN we do... keep his chin up for him because it sounds like he definitely needs it right now.

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Hang in there girl. :hugs

DB is infantry as well. He wouldn't talk about the future for a long time once he first got over there. We are ~7 months in now. He would also constantly talk about how bad things were and his concerns about hoping he makes it home. Everytime he hangs up the phone with me his last words are always "you take care babe" and I absolutely hate it because I know the context that he's thinking in:( .......for the first time last week I heard him say something positive about things over there, I about fell over lol.

I'm sure your DB is just feeling insecure about things there, as anybody would. Given some time, he'll get adjusted I bet.

And I agree about your pictures in your signature...they make me teary eyed :hugs

I'm sure he'll be fine. Love can move mountains.... so just keep loving him and he'll be back in your arms before you know it. :hug

Just like the other gals said he needs your strength right now. He needs to believe that he will be home again and you will give him the courage to believe that again. Be strong and tell him how much you love him every chance you get!!

:( He is probably just really scared. Hang in there and just TRY to be as positive as possible for him. I think they all go over there scared and probably stay scared the whole time they're gone, even if they can't or don't ever tell anyone. Just try to be there for him. He REALLY needs you right now, even if he doesn't come out and say it. Talk about everything in a way like you KNOW it will happen... not "If" I see you, but WHEN i see you... not "If" we get married and have babies, but WHEN we do... keep his chin up for him because it sounds like he definitely needs it right now.

I totally agree with Brandi..

I am sorry... I am here for you guys. Mine is a computer information specialist. I will keep you in my thoughts. Hoping time goes by fast for you so he can switch his job!!!!!! When does he come home?

He comes home in December. It's in the double digits now.

:( He is probably just really scared. Hang in there and just TRY to be as positive as possible for him. I think they all go over there scared and probably stay scared the whole time they're gone, even if they can't or don't ever tell anyone. Just try to be there for him. He REALLY needs you right now, even if he doesn't come out and say it. Talk about everything in a way like you KNOW it will happen... not "If" I see you, but WHEN i see you... not "If" we get married and have babies, but WHEN we do... keep his chin up for him because it sounds like he definitely needs it right now.

I completely agree with this. Hang in there, so many of the guys go through hard times and the more support they have the easier it will be to make it through for him. Many, many :hugs to both of you. He WILL make it home & all you can do is believe that & do all you can to make sure he knows it.

I definately aggree with Brandi-you need to be strong for him now because he's having a hard time doing it for himself. Be as positive as possible when you're talking to him and let him know how much you love him and what you guys will do when he gets back(not if, but when). I know that DH went through the same thing when he first got there, and after a while he got adjusted to everything. But he told me that it really helped that I was right there backing him up and supporting him without completely freaking out and getting hysterical. I was really upset, but I tried to keep in mind that it was harder on him because he knows how I react to him saying stuff like that. Good luck and if you need anything, PM me!
~And your siggy pics always make me tear up when I see them-they're so very sweet

I don't have any words of advice...everyone else said it better already but many many :hugs and :goodvibes for both of you!

:bigsadhugIs this his first deployment?...don't worry he's just probably really worried about how things are going over there. It will be ok..

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Mine sounded especially sad this morning, but nothing of that sort. I am more like that than he is. Keep reassuring your man, tell him you love him.

He comes home in December. It's in the double digits now.

For good or for leave?

My db talks like he's coming home in a few days. It keeps us positive. I always tell him I love him, somedays I wonder if I annoy him by saying it so much. When he has his bad days I ask if he can tell me about it, an I try to talk about something positive like how im doing in school, or how my job is going.

:bigsadhug I will have the both of you in my prayers

Should anyone be asking when a deployed SO comes back? I was told by my hubby I can't say when he leaves OR comes back when he deploys :shrug

I'll keep him in my prayers hun, and I'm sure he's just playing it safe and letting you know how much you mean to him. :hugs

My bad :duh

Should anyone be asking when a deployed SO comes back? I was told by my hubby I can't say when he leaves OR comes back when he deploys :shrug


I don't think it matters all that much as long as you just say the month. :shrug

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