I am going through my first deployment. My husband has been gone since March. He has been doing good so far but a couple of days ago he was really stressed and short tempered. Do all soldiers go through this. He apologized and I understand I mean I know how badly he wants to be home and how stressful it may be. But how do I deal with his anger? Do I just smile and tell him everything will be okay? I know I have to stand beside him and be here for him but what do I do when he yells at me for no reason?

I'm new to this too and my honey has been pretty good at warning me when he's "in a funk". Its never related to me. But, I think that often anger gets displaced onto those we love the most because it needs to come out somewhere and unfortunately you are the safest target. Next time you talk and he's in a better place (like after he's apologized) I would very calmly and nicely explain how it hurts you. I think that keeping that communication open is important so that you don't build unwanted resentment. Explain that you love him and ask him how you can support him when he feels angry. But that's just my opinion....hope thing get better

This is my first deployment also but what I have figured out with DB is that after he has calmed down I can talk to him about it. The second time this happened I told him I understood he was upset and that he needed to get mad but to please just not be so mean about it the next time :lol The fact that he is 'opening up' and sharing with you is a good sign and it is part of our 'job' to be there to listen. Whenever he gets stressed it is better he talks/yells to you then someone else. And remember we are always there to listen when you need to vent :hugs

It isn't the most pleasant thing to deal with when all you want is for them to tell you romantic things all the time and all that. It's natural though but it has nothing to do with you and that is really important to remember. You do have to wait it out though. As long as he isn't being really hurtful towards you. Stay positive, that's all you can do.

From what I understand, you just smile and tell him everything will be ok! I havnt been through a deployment yet but I know you definalty dont want to stress him out more. Just tell him how much you love him and your there for him and let him be a jerk sometimes!