So DB and I haven't talked much lately since he's been so busy over on the other side of the world! So finally today we catch each other online and he's not really responding much and I come out with my usual "i miss you" since each day i seem to miss him more and more. His response "k" WTF?! Then I get the usual "sorry to be short but I'm checking my email/doing paperwork and talking to a few other people and i gotta go shower and do a few things"

I feel like he's being so cold, I'm in tears over the whole thing and to top it off, for his r&r now he wants to take those two weeks to be alone somewhere....BY HIMSELF to think things over about his life.

I know he is so stressed out and has so much on his plate currently but that's all i get..:confused:no:sigh:unlove:depressed:grumpy

I hate that he has such a huge effect on my emotions like this but I was so excited about getting a chance to talk to him today and now I almost wish I didn't. He's gone after only talking for a couple minutes, more like me talking to myself, and I miss him more!! I wish things were different but they're not and he's gone for another 8 months..

sweetie, times get that way..expecially with him over there. Trust me i went and still am going through the same thing. We have to be strong! i know its hard at times, but at the end its all worth it. they are really busy over there i have come and found that out the hard way, he really wants to talk to you, but you (we) all have to realize that they are really busy over there. Keep your chin up!

i know with my soldier, that sometimes when i get too mushy as he likes to refer to it, he gets pretty anxious to get off of the phone. they can get conditioned sometimes to pull back, for whatever reason, i think it helps them to feel like they have more control, in an area that is compleatly out of control and it makes things easier on them. just love him and suport him and he'll come back around.

Im sorry. I would really listen to the other girls on here. They know what they are talking about. My Marine just left me, and i know I need to prepare myself for this sort of thing.
I can only imagine that talking to you does make him emotional and maybe he isnt in a place right now where he can be in such a state. Give him some time and he will be writing/calling you.

Everyone deals with being over there differently but most people go through changes. It does not make it easier however, we have to try to prepare ourselves for it. When our loved ones return they can be altered for some time due to what they have experienced over there. Patience, love and understanding is just about all you can offer, while surrounding yourself with people who understand what this situation is like. It all just takes time and the instant gratification and turn arounds many of us wish don't often work in these instances. Make sure to pamper yourself in this and keep your chin up. :hug

I'm sorry. I suggest believing him though. He says he's trying to do a lot at once, he probably is. THey keep them pretty busy. Also, he might be trying to keep emotion out of it a little bit. If he is staying busy and doing a lot at once, maybe he just doesn't want to think about you missing him or him hurting you (in a way) by being gone for so long.

Awwww. :( okay whether or not he's really busy and can't talk i KNOW that it hurt you...and i just want to say i'm sorry and i hope your day gets better. Be strong, he needs you. Go get some ice cream girl.