This is going to prob sound childish and silly but I am new to the military lifestye and please bear with me.

Im a lil "fussy" at my marine right now. He is at training camp in NC and leaving for Kuwait next Mon. Today he sent me a text saying they got their guy in charge to sign off on alot of their training early so he now has nothing to do until Thursday-his words..." Im so bored,I have nothing to do,there is nothing to do on base, this sucks, I have nothing to do" So, this boy bored out of his mind with nothing to do...couldnt even call me tonight not even a text.. So im fussy and should prob be in bed but I cant sleep. If it wasnt this situation i would tell him he should of had his ass on the phone but i know its not worth it bc hes leaving next week.

But,how can he be fine already? Im a mess. I miss him so much. He on the other hand does tell me he loves/misses me but seems like he is having a good time hanging with the boys at training. Last week they had the weekend off so they drove to Baltimore to go drink/hang out with some old buddies. I can barely focus on my daily routine and hes off drinking and living it up. I dont get it. I would be wanting to call my SO as much as possible if i knew i was leaving in a week. When he first left he told me how much it hurt for him to leave me etc.. and then its like poof all better....:sigh

...and please dont get me wrong I do want him to have a good time before he is stuck in a sandbox for 6 mo's. Im just upset right now.

I totally understand what you are saying. I am that way with my DB as well. I dont know what type of person your guy is, but mine is the kind to make the best of every situation and to deal with things on his on terms. I barely see him get uspet, but I know he is sometimes! All I can say is it is really really hard, but sometimes we just have to bite our tongues and let them be little boys! I know how you feel, and I don't blame you....I am sure he is hurtingmore than he wants you to know andmaybe its hard for him to talk to you sometimes...it may upset him to hear your voice! :yes

I understand what you are saying and how hard it can be. They just have to clear their minds of it all though and focus in and stay busy and not think about home and what they miss. If they start thinking abotu that too much, that's when problems arise, because they miss something important about training or a mission or whatever it should be that day.

HE also might just be trying to stay strong for you and not let you know that he's missing you, thinking that might make it harder for both of you.

DB is like that. I know he loves me a lot but when it comes time to say good bye I wouldn't say he's cold or distant but he tries not to focus on it because he will get depressed and as sad as me. I'm always hiding my eyes so he can't see the tears and I don't ever fully let them out when he can see me. Most men hate to see their women cry....sometimes it's just easier not to be too close right before the sepaation....they do it because they love us. :yes

I think it's all part of normal separation stuff. Unfortunately they try to distance themselves so they don't get too upset when they have to leave. It doesn't mean that he isn't thinking about you all the time and missing you as much as you're missing him. Guys just function differently. He may be "bored" too, but if he is hanging out with guys in the barracks, he might not want to be "that guy" who is always on the phone with his SO. So stupid, but so much a possibility. Hope you get some rest, hun! :hugs