that i can go 100% natural. he doesn't think i can do it because according to him "i never finish anything" which isn't true. :sigh

Go for it! You are much stronger than I, after being in the hospital last monday I was drugs, drugs, drugs! LOL

i've got to get him to practice the bradley relaxation techniques when he gets into off crew

I didn't think that I could do it either, but I did....

I just kept telling myself, "2 more minutes, then I'll ask.."

It worked for me.. those 2 minutes eventually closed the window for meds. :yes

its cool you want to do that.

make that your goal. No better goal that to prove someone wrong. so do it just to prove him wrong!

DH was acting like that to me too! I say try if you want to and tell him he needs to support you and believe in you. I tried my hardest at it but with how my birth went it was hard to do and plus I had a section anyways. but I am planning on trying again if we have another.

Go for it but dont feel like you failed if you end up asking for meds

well i'm going to use the bradley method which requires the coach, in this case dh, to be involved in practicing

There is no f'in way that I could have had a natural childbirth. :nutts The drugs and epidural were definitely my friend during labor/delivery.

More power to you if you can do it Jill! :yes

good luck, girl... i know how you feel about the aches and pains you have NOW... labor will be a whole new experience :hugs :)

good luck, girl... i know how you feel about the aches and pains you have NOW... labor will be a whole new experience :hugs :)

i'm also very tense and not sleeping because of just not getting comfy and i'm overly exhausted (apparently i'm anemic which explains alot). i hope i can do it. i've been doing the exercises they have me doing for the bradley method and as soon as he gets into off crew probably around the 1st of oct. he'll be helping me practice relaxing

There was no-way I could do that! I only got to 5 but had broken water for the entire time. Broken water=intense painful contractions. I ended up with a section anyhow but if my water had not been broken I really think my contractions would have been more tolerable. Second son was a planned section.

I wouldn't want anyone feeling like I failed something if I couldn't stand the pain though......and I don't think I would put myself through absolute hell just to prove a point. That just my opinion, I hope that didn't sound rude:P

Go for it but dont feel like you failed if you end up asking for meds
:agree.. i have to say for it to work, he also needs to be supportive and not talking down to you by saying you won't be able to. since that can get stuck in the back of your mind and create doubt in yourself. I wish I had the courage to try, but I am a wimp. :giggle

Go for it but dont feel like you failed if you end up asking for meds

:yes I totally agree!!

There was no-way I could do that! I only got to 5 but had broken water for the entire time. Broken water=intense painful contractions. I ended up with a section anyhow but if my water had not been broken I really think my contractions would have been more tolerable. Second son was a planned section.

I wouldn't want anyone feeling like I failed something if I couldn't stand the pain though......and I don't think I would put myself through absolute hell just to prove a point. That just my opinion, I hope that didn't sound rude:P

it didn't sound rude. i know what you mean. i'm not completely 100% opposed to meds but i want to go as far as i can without meds and preferably none at all but i know my limit

I really wanted to go natural. We took the classes and Dh slept through them. Seriously. Then after 13 hours of labor and hearing him whine to just get the meds I finally did. I was very tired and he was no help at all. He was was more bothered than I was. Anyway the point of my very long post is that after all I went through with my first I never tried to go natural again because I was afraid of being disappointed with my dh again.

So if he is not 100% behind you or able to support you then you might look into having another coach or other alternatives. Good luck. The end result of a happy baby is all that really matters when it is over :hugs

I've done both girl, and if you put your mind to it you can do it. lol but I enjoyed the med birth a whole lot better.

aww prove him wrong girl! I don't think the worst part w/o meds would be the contractions, possibly the pushing her out though

Whatever happens, good luck!!

i'll keep y'all updated on the situation ladies

You can do it if you are able ;) Just remember that meds are ok. I went in with the mindset that if I didnt need meds then fine. And if I did then fine too

G'luck

Go for it girlie, you can do it. Tell your dh to get on board with au natural.

May I ask why you want to go all natural? Im actually thinking about it but I really wont know for sure what I want until the time comes.

sweetheart-I have all the faith in the world in you-Let me just say that even if you can't go natural, you are no less a woman because of that.:hugs Just decide at the time that you cross that bridge & not going natural doesn't mean you didn't finish in anyway, shape or form:hugs

May I ask why you want to go all natural? Im actually thinking about it but I really wont know for sure what I want until the time comes.

there is some evidence out there that medications such as epidurals can interfere with the initial breastfeeding, which is something that is very important to me. also i want to be able to move around and have control over my labor.

there is some evidence out there that medications such as epidurals can interfere with the initial breastfeeding, which is something that is very important to me. also i want to be able to move around and have control over my labor.


just an FYI, from personal experience:

with zoe: got the epi early... it wore off at 4cms and could not get re-started. my last hours of labor were miserable, i pushed for an hour and a half in the most intense pain, and when she came out, she had no desire to breastfeed (and i only ended up BF her for 3 months)

with ellie: got the epi at 6 cms, after being in labor for 8 hours... it was a great epi and i felt amazing. i controlled my labor and pushed for about 15 easy, comfortable mins and minutes after she popped out, breastfed like a champ...recovery was awesom too.



the thing i've learned with my 2 pregnancies... pregnancy #1, i planned it all out... thought i knew EXACTLY how things were going to go, how i was going to parent, etc... let me just say that pretty much NONE of it went as planned... #2, i had no pre-conceived notions of anything and am enjoying being a new mommy 10000% more because i don't have expectations for things, and thus no room for disappointment...you will see how your labor (and then your baby) is...and things might change. don't beat yourself up over it if that happens!

Bex,
that's my plan is i want to go natural but i know my limits and if i can't do it or i medically need an epi or other meds then i will take them/get one because i'm not going to jeopardize my baby or myself kwim? i have no preconceived notions about how it's going to go. i'm trying to keep an open mind about what is/will happen

I would do it just to prove him wrong!!!

Go for it but dont feel like you failed if you end up asking for meds

oh so true..i was exhausted cuz i couldnt sleep the night before..i was getting induced and i was bouncing off the walls and i was on pitocin (owie!)...sometimes first time mommies just need the drugs to relax enough for their labor to progress..so dont feel like you are giving in if you need them!

You can do it if you are able ;) Just remember that meds are ok. I went in with the mindset that if I didnt need meds then fine. And if I did then fine too

G'luck

That exactly how I went in thinking. I went natural with my son and had and epi with my daughter.

If you really want to go med free you can do it! Don't be upset if the pain is to much to handle. There is shame in having meds when you are having a baby!

:agree.. i have to say for it to work, he also needs to be supportive and not talking down to you by saying you won't be able to. since that can get stuck in the back of your mind and create doubt in yourself. I wish I had the courage to try, but I am a wimp. :giggle

Yeah that, if he is not going to get on board and support you in your goal do you have a friend that can be your coach (DH can be there just not as the "coach" so he is still a support person and part of the birth) are you close with your mom or a sister that could come for the birth?

I didn't practice anything with my Mom and she was AMAZING help during my labor and the birth of my ODS. I needed my DH too but my Mom was my rock for most of it. It also was good having one person on either side of me. I hope I am explaining it correctly.

Lots of luck Jill try not to stress you have a few months yet to go.

that i can go 100% natural. he doesn't think i can do it because according to him "i never finish anything" which isn't true. :sigh

What a crappy thing for him to say.

Set your mind to it and you can do anything. I think he may change his opinion of you after watching you give birth.

The most important thing is that the baby comes out healthy and your healthy at the end too. If that involves a little pain management so be it.

I am going natural. I have my MIL and others telling me that I won't. SO ANNOYING !!!!

Just remember that you might not physically be able to handle the pain or may not physically be able to give birth without the meds.

I went completely natural with Alex. Cameron on the other hand I was in hard labor for 24 hours and couldn't dialate past 7sm because I was too tense, as soon as I got the epi I was readyto push in less than 10 minutes. For Wyatt I had the same doc I had for cameron. I begged me to just get the Epi to begin with, and I did. The next baby we have I am going to try for natural again.

I just wanted to say - He is an insensitive ASS! Who the hell is he to say something like that to you????

Sorry - now the supportive words - Like others have said - you will NOT be a failure if you end up taking medication to get thru the labor. I applaud you for having the goal to go 100% natural.

If you want to do it I know you can. It is all mind over matter and pain management. The fact that he doesn't think you can do it though sucks, he needs to be supportive of your decision to do this. Having people there who support your decision to go natural makes a big difference.