let me ask first, is it strange that my DB has been gone for about 8 weeks and i have not received any mail/letters from him? He says he has sent some. Also I've been emailing him that past 2 weeks with no reply, and then I get a phone call today in which basically nothing was actually said except how are you, and then a minute later it cut out. :sigh ( But he did say on the phone he can access his email, so I wonder why he hasn't emailed me in 2 weeks). I thought a phone call would clear it up.

It just stinks because i write everyday and send him stuff once a week, and its just not reciprocated or acknowledged. :sadeyes i love him ta death, but jeez could i get an email? or a phone call that doesn't abruptly end??? Anyone in this boat?

It's pretty normal. Everyone has a different situation in regards to phone and computer access. I've gone 3 weeks without a call and I've heard a lot longer. It's the military there are no guarantees but I wouldn't freak out about it!

-- I know over some bad connections- DB & I both start accidentaly talk at the same time- so it takes about a half minute to get past the "how are you's?"- but yeah, I would definitely email him about your concerns and in the meantime be supportive-- there may be a good reason for it-- for the snail mail, it may take a while to catch up to you--

Just hang in there sweetie, its not un common from what I have read and people that I have talked to.

Mail from them takes longer to get to us than it does from us to them. It took about 3 weeks for the only letter DH has sent me to get here. Is your DB with a big Unit? He might not be able to get to e-mail every day and could have a time limit on it. There are a ton of reasons why communication has been limited. Don't forget about blackouts and stuff like that too.

Is he in Iraq?

Well for me, it's been a few weeks since he last called but the couple times he has called, we've lost the connection or had a hard time understanding each other so we had to talk VERY slow. My Db doesnt really email me back much anymore but I continue to send him cards, e-cards and emails. He emailed me in the beginning but I know he has trouble putting his thoughts into words sometimes. The communication part is hard but everyday I just think how hopefully all that I send him makes him smile and makes his day even a tiny bit better and then i dont get so down about not hearing back from him. Continue to support him, let him know you care! That's what they need most.