MINE JUST BOUGHT A FUCKING XBOX! :reallymad $400!!!!!!!! :vent Then the games are $50-60 each. Fucking idiot. I told him so too. I threatened to empty his account and put his money where he can't touch it. I hate when he does stupid shit like that. So far, I think he has spent more money this deployment than he has made. And he was supposed to come home and break even on paying off his credit cards :irked

That is crazy. I would think that it would be cheaper there. I dunno! Dh usually buys stuff when they hit port like in Singapore or Hong Kong. Overall though he usually doesn't spend too much when he is deployed.

Ah - xbox's are like their lifelines over there. Their free time revolves around Halo & Madden tournaments.

Mine bought an xbox, about 200 dvds, 2 ipods & and a whole bunch of other shit lol....OH and a laptop.

Well he wasnt in Iraq but on his deployment earlier this year he bought- A Ipod, A PSP ( which he says for me, but yet he keeps it on the ship), A PS2, a new camara, and then gifts to bring home.

The last time my dad was in Iraq he bought a laptop and like 100 cans of Iraqi Pepsi and a crap ton of currency with Sadam Hussien's head on it when it discontinued.

Oh well I dunno, but if I were in a place where I could die just driving out of the fucking base I think I would be buying a lot of frivolous shit too.

While for me it's Africa not Iraq and he got a wife beating stick... I don't know what the hell he thinks he's going to do with it...lol

I agree with Scheale. I mean if he has been using at least the majority of his money on bills and what not that he NEEDS to pay off, then let him have his fun. And I dont think you can do anything with his money until you married (if you are married, then sorry). But I mean at least its an xbox and not a iraqi whore kwim? (I have NO idea if they can even get a whore in Iraq, it was just a comparison :dunno)

While for me it's Africa not Iraq and he got a wife beating stick... I don't know what the hell he thinks he's going to do with it...lol

OMG Toby would be allll over that thing just for jokes! :lol

MINE JUST BOUGHT A FUCKING XBOX! :reallymad $400!!!!!!!! :vent Then the games are $50-60 each. Fucking idiot. I told him so too. I threatened to empty his account and put his money where he can't touch it. I hate when he does stupid shit like that. So far, I think he has spent more money this deployment than he has made. And he was supposed to come home and break even on paying off his credit cards :irked


That was the first thing mine bought as well.... He bought it thinking that he was going to be a Fobbit.. boy was he wrong.. He probably played it all of 4 times in the whole 2 years he was in Iraq...

Ah - xbox's are like their lifelines over there. Their free time revolves around Halo & Madden tournaments. Mine bought an xbox, about 200 dvds, 2 ipods & and a whole bunch of other shit lol....OH and a laptop.

:shock That's a lot! I would flip if DB got that bad. I'm just really mad because one of the other guys just bought one, yet they can't share. I don't get it :screwy

Oh well I dunno, but if I were in a place where I could die just driving out of the fucking base I think I would be buying a lot of frivolous shit too.

:nope I prefer not to think of his time over there in that way.

While for me it's Africa not Iraq and he got a wife beating stick... I don't know what the hell he thinks he's going to do with it...lol

:hystericlaugh Awesome!

I mean if he has been using at least the majority of his money on bills and what not that he NEEDS to pay off, then let him have his fun. And I dont think you can do anything with his money until you married (if you are married, then sorry). But I mean at least its an xbox and not a iraqi whore kwim? (I have NO idea if they can even get a whore in Iraq, it was just a comparison :dunno)

No he's not spending the majority of his money on his financial obligations right now. :banghead I have access to everything. :yes We're not married, and we won't be til his ass is out of debt and out of college. Hmm maybe I would rather it be an Iraqi whore, it'd probably be much cheaper :thinking

Well DB is in Afghanistan but . . . he recently bought a bread maker :puzz I still don't quite get that one! :lol

:lmao That's odd!!! Does he make a lot of bread?

It wasn't in Iraq, but last deployment, dh spent money on some whack stuff. He had a suit tailor made in Singapore and sent back home (it is sooooo freakin' ugly!). He got a hotel room in Dubai and did the currency conversion backwards, so it ended up costing over $1k - he thought he was getting a deal.

I think what bugged me most was when he would beg and beg for things in emails, and me and his family would make up care packages with them, but by the time he got them, he would have gotten impatient and already bought the things, like DVD's, etc. Usually, the care packages were delivered during port calls, but he would run out shopping the first minute he could, then get the package like the next day or something.

I'm sorry...but - I just have to go there.

He's in a warzone. He bought an XBox. Is it really the end of the world? Give the guy a break.

:lmao That's odd!!! Does he make a lot of bread?

Apparently. He has made 3 loaves in the last week since he got it :giggle

While for me it's Africa not Iraq and he got a wife beating stick... I don't know what the hell he thinks he's going to do with it...lol

:lol

DH is in a country getting medical stuff done...but he thankfully is only serious about buying a PSP. But he was going to get silk sheets made there...which I wouldn't have minded..the thing I thought was crazy was that he wanted a suit made....but he doesn't even wear them. :screwy

I'm sorry...but - I just have to go there.

He's in a warzone. He bought an XBox. Is it really the end of the world? Give the guy a break.

Yeah, not trying to be rude or ruin your vent...but I agree with Becca.

It wasn't in Iraq, but last deployment, dh spent money on some whack stuff. He had a suit tailor made in Singapore and sent back home (it is sooooo freakin' ugly!). He got a hotel room in Dubai and did the currency conversion backwards, so it ended up costing over $1k - he thought he was getting a deal.

:lmao That reminds me, he bought a custom suit from some Iraqi!!!! I think that was $300 or $400 or something. :hairpull I told him he is funding terrorism :suspect Whoa he went to Dubai!!!!!! That place is nuts! :eek

I'm sorry...but - I just have to go there. He's in a warzone. He bought an XBox. Is it really the end of the world? Give the guy a break.

He's in a warzone. He bought an XBox. :lmao I don't get it. Is PSP not enough?? He barely spends time in his room anyway. :duh

Apparently. He has made 3 loaves in the last week since he got it :giggle

:lmao

He's in a warzone. He bought an XBox. :lmao I don't get it. Is PSP not enough?? He barely spends time in his room anyway. :duh



Apparently not :dunno

:hystericlaugh

Mine's bought a new laptop, a new ipod, some books and that's all as far as I know...

Mine's been pretty good. There have been a few things that I haven't agreed with but whatever I guess. He wanted an x-box but I nixed that because they already have a PS2 in their room. I realize they're in a war zone and all but I think it's easy for the guys to get carried away and then they'll come back and have noooo money. DH and I have some bills to pay off so I keep him a little in check with all that.

that makes me feel better...to konw that mine's not the only one with crazy ideas. he told me the other day that he bought a tv?! I asked what he's going to watch on it, his response...Im getting an XBox to go with it.

Silly silly man. I guess as long as it helps him stay sane and he doesnt go overboard what can I do?

Well DB is in Afghanistan but . . . he recently bought a bread maker :puzz I still don't quite get that one! :lol

LOL

that makes me feel better...to konw that mine's not the only one with crazy ideas. he told me the other day that he bought a tv?! I asked what he's going to watch on it, his response...Im getting an XBox to go with it.

:lmao OMG... I didn't even think about how he had a TV to hook the XBox up to... shit he probably bought a TV too :irked He bought a fridge a few weeks ago.........and broke it. Fortunately he bought it used from one of the guys leaving, but still....................DB = Dumb Ass.

:lmao OMG... I didn't even think about how he had a TV to hook the XBox up to... shit he probably bought a TV too :irked He bought a fridge a few weeks ago.........and broke it. Fortunately he bought it used from one of the guys leaving, but still....................DB = Dumb Ass.

:puzz :wow :tsktsk I don't even know what to say except I hope you're more supportive of him IRL.

:roflmao

:nope I prefer not to think of his time over there in that way.


Just because YOU don't prefer it does NOT mean that it isn't possible, and THAT is why if he wants to buy frivolous shit for entertainment in the SMALL AMOUNT OF TIME he actually has where he's not in FEAR FOR HIS LIFE, and YOU ARENT MARRIED TO HIM, you shouldn't have the gall to say anything about how he spends HIS MONEY.

the incredible selfishness you're demonstrating with something that isn't even YOURS is just baffling to me.

Not trying to be a meanie or a pot stirrer, I promise, but when you're dealing with a loved one being over there in the middle of an extremely hostile war, I'd just find some way within your heart to be glad that he's even alive to play an xbox. Seriously, there are so many people that I know of first hand, that have lost limbs and lives. It's easy for people here at home to forget how hostile it is over there, but he seriously probably fears for his life on a daily basis, so I'm glad they are actually able to have that opportunity to play xbox and watch tv. My heart breaks for all of them, still.

Not trying to be a meanie or a pot stirrer, I promise, but when you're dealing with a loved one being over there in the middle of an extremely hostile war, I'd just find some way within your heart to be glad that he's even alive to play an xbox. Seriously, there are so many people that I know of first hand, that have lost limbs and lives. It's easy for people here at home to forget how hostile it is over there, but he seriously probably fears for his life on a daily basis, so I'm glad they are actually able to have that opportunity to play xbox and watch tv. My heart breaks for all of them, still.

:yes Thank you for saying it more calmly than I was able to Brandi. :sigh

Not trying to be a meanie or a pot stirrer, I promise, but when you're dealing with a loved one being over there in the middle of an extremely hostile war, I'd just find some way within your heart to be glad that he's even alive to play an xbox. Seriously, there are so many people that I know of first hand, that have lost limbs and lives. It's easy for people here at home to forget how hostile it is over there, but he seriously probably fears for his life on a daily basis, so I'm glad they are actually able to have that opportunity to play xbox and watch tv. My heart breaks for all of them, still.

I couldn't agree more and It is kind of disheatening to see someone so upset over a few hundred bucks here and there for some "home" type creature comforts .

ok i dont want to get attacked here but isnt she allowed to come here and vent and not get attacked herself..the way some of you guys attacked her..her db is deployed and im sure shes worried and im sure hes stressed but doesnt she have the right to be a lil annoyed deep down..if your guy went out and bought a tv and a xbox while he was deployed whether you are married are not can you not say that you might be a lil shocked? esp you married ladies tell me that if you had just paid the bills and bought groceries and out of nowhere he calls and tells you he just bought like 600-1000 dollars worth of stuff would you not be a lil annoyed? im not saying shame on you guys for saying shame on her but i am saying that ever since i discovered this site i thought hmm you know no matter how much he drives me crazy i can come here and vent and no one will judge me..you guys just proved me wrong. isnt better that she vented here instead of to him? i know i have said some things on here instead of to rick and im glad i didnt tell him but even happier that i got it out to someone. im not saying you guys are wrong or that she is im just saying shes a fellow military significant other and if you look at the header on this page it says significant other and spouse support not critique.

ok im done

again didnt say that to piss ANYONE off

:onsoapbox

I think my boyfriend is so funny... he seems to break all of his stuff...he had a camera on his first deployment and it was damaged he also had a portable dvd player and thats broken too... he just took a new digital camera for his second tour and a week into being there he called and told me that its damaged but that it still sorta works. He was suppose to take his laptop that he took to best buy to get fixed, paid 600 bucks to get fixed and it still doesnt work. He forgot his ipod in his car so he bought some cheap mp3 player over there or something of that sort. He had a psp on his first tour and its all scratched up but he gave it to his little brother who is 7. SIGH idk what hes gonna do with his free time there. But im expecting him to buy something...but im hoping he wont cause i want to buy him something for christmas!!

sry its long lol i just feel bad that he doesnt have anything there cause either he forgets it or it got damaged...had to vent

ok i dont want to get attacked here but isnt she allowed to come here and vent and not get attacked herself..the way some of you guys attacked her..her db is deployed and im sure shes worried and im sure hes stressed but doesnt she have the right to be a lil annoyed deep down..if your guy went out and bought a tv and a xbox while he was deployed whether you are married are not can you not say that you might be a lil shocked? esp you married ladies tell me that if you had just paid the bills and bought groceries and out of nowhere he calls and tells you he just bought like 600-1000 dollars worth of stuff would you not be a lil annoyed? im not saying shame on you guys for saying shame on her but i am saying that ever since i discovered this site i thought hmm you know no matter how much he drives me crazy i can come here and vent and no one will judge me..you guys just proved me wrong. isnt better that she vented here instead of to him? i know i have said some things on here instead of to rick and im glad i didnt tell him but even happier that i got it out to someone. im not saying you guys are wrong or that she is im just saying shes a fellow military significant other and if you look at the header on this page it says significant other and spouse support not critique.

ok im done

again didnt say that to piss ANYONE off

:onsoapbox

yea, she can vent, but I think we can also offer another perspective. Like I said, I know it's hard for people here at home to understand what they are going through over there, but we do NEED to be understanding. No one said she couldn't vent, but I feel that if she does vent, other members can also respectfully offer their insight or another perspective :)

it sucks if he is spending every dime, but if the xbox is the only thing, i say, oh well. let him have his fun.


Just because YOU don't prefer it does NOT mean that it isn't possible, and THAT is why if he wants to buy frivolous shit for entertainment in the SMALL AMOUNT OF TIME he actually has where he's not in FEAR FOR HIS LIFE, and YOU ARENT MARRIED TO HIM, you shouldn't have the gall to say anything about how he spends HIS MONEY.

the incredible selfishness you're demonstrating with something that isn't even YOURS is just baffling to me.


I think this post is OUT OF LINE. I am sure she is more than aware of the danger her loved one is in. If she does not want to view his deployment in that manner I find it totally rude for you to shove it in her face.

Also, if they are not married but he has allowed access to his funds IT iS HER RIGHT. There are plenty of people in committed relationships that do not involve marriage that have joint finances/shared finances. Also, if they plan on marrying, his financial situation SHOULD BE a concern of hers.

This isn't the first time my words and emoticons were taken very seriously, so I shouldn't be surprised it happened again. I'm not really flipping about it. Sheesh. Things get taken so seriously around here :dunno

if I were in a place where I could die just driving out of the fucking base I think I would be buying a lot of frivolous shit too.

Just because YOU don't prefer it does NOT mean that it isn't possible, and THAT is why if he wants to buy frivolous shit for entertainment in the SMALL AMOUNT OF TIME he actually has where he's not in FEAR FOR HIS LIFE, and YOU ARENT MARRIED TO HIM, you shouldn't have the gall to say anything about how he spends HIS MONEY.

the incredible selfishness you're demonstrating with something that isn't even YOURS is just baffling to me.

Although there is no legally binding documents between him and I, we are very committed to each other, and we are sharing a life together, and that includes our income. So I do have a say. If I wanted your opinion I would ask for it.

Your comments on this thread have really disgusted me. Where's your SO? Is he over there? How would you feel if I threw those words at you? This is the first, and I hope the last time I come on SOS and read something as terrible as that. Thank you for reminding me that every time he leaves base, he can die. And that day in and day out we are in fear of his life. Thanks. As if I don't think that shit enough? Thanks for driving the point home for me. And for anyone else reading this that has someone over there. You have got a lot of nerve. Did you want to break me? You did a good job. PLEASE leave me alone. Stop responding to my threads.

yea, she can vent, but I think we can also offer another perspective. Like I said, I know it's hard for people here at home to understand what they are going through over there, but we do NEED to be understanding. No one said she couldn't vent, but I feel that if she does vent, other members can also respectfully offer their insight or another perspective :)

you have to admit some of those things that were said were out of line..mikoyswife really went too far no one needs to hear that when their so is gone...

Just because YOU don't prefer it does NOT mean that it isn't possible, and THAT is why if he wants to buy frivolous shit for entertainment in the SMALL AMOUNT OF TIME he actually has where he's not in FEAR FOR HIS LIFE, and YOU ARENT MARRIED TO HIM, you shouldn't have the gall to say anything about how he spends HIS MONEY.

the incredible selfishness you're demonstrating with something that isn't even YOURS is just baffling to me.

I hate to be the party pooper here, but I have to agree.

Once your married, the finances will be your responsibility, too...right now, they're not. If he wants to spend $10,000 on something you think is "stupid", while he's over there fighting for your right to even EXPRESS free thought...that's his decision to make.

I understand this was meant as a lighthearted post...but criticizing his purchases(which is the only freedom he has at the moment) comes off as awfully unsupportive.

ok i dont want to get attacked here but isnt she allowed to come here and vent and not get attacked herself..the way some of you guys attacked her..her db is deployed and im sure shes worried and im sure hes stressed but doesnt she have the right to be a lil annoyed deep down..if your guy went out and bought a tv and a xbox while he was deployed whether you are married are not can you not say that you might be a lil shocked? esp you married ladies tell me that if you had just paid the bills and bought groceries and out of nowhere he calls and tells you he just bought like 600-1000 dollars worth of stuff would you not be a lil annoyed? im not saying shame on you guys for saying shame on her but i am saying that ever since i discovered this site i thought hmm you know no matter how much he drives me crazy i can come here and vent and no one will judge me..you guys just proved me wrong. isnt better that she vented here instead of to him? i know i have said some things on here instead of to rick and im glad i didnt tell him but even happier that i got it out to someone. im not saying you guys are wrong or that she is im just saying shes a fellow military significant other and if you look at the header on this page it says significant other and spouse support not critique.

ok im done

again didnt say that to piss ANYONE off

:onsoapbox

I'm not pissed off...but if it was a vent, shouldn't it have gone in the vents section?

And yes, I agree...this site is a place where we can ALL express our true feelings. I'm glad that both Julianne and Schaele expressed theirs, and I was able to add mine...as well as everyone else who contributed.

I always post here. This was related to deployment too. And I wanted to see what other guys got over there for comparison's sake. I have to say... I am really interested in that wife beating stick. I will have to ask him to see if he can track one down for us. j/k j/k j/k j/k I don't need anyone thinking he is a wife beater and telling me to leave him :lol

I always post here. This was related to deployment too. And I wanted to see what other guys got over there for comparison's sake. I have to say... I am really interested in that wife beating stick. I will have to ask him to see if he can track one down for us. j/k j/k j/k j/k I don't need anyone thinking he is a wife beater and telling me to leave him

he he i was about to post that and then i saw yours as i was typing..great minds think alike ( ok total threadjack alert i just posted a thread and i included some pics of some "fun" stuff for when he gets home and we seem to share the same views..you should go look and tell me what you think. ok threadjack alert over! :teehee )

and in response to you loretta im glad everyone gets to express their feelings but shouldnt they do it tactfully? either say it nicely or not at all just like our mamas taught us... :giggle im in a smart ass mood tonight

My mama taught me to be honest even if it hurts...and I'm glad to do her proud. Thanks :D

Well DB is in Afghanistan but . . . he recently bought a bread maker :puzz I still don't quite get that one! :lol
How sweet.

When DH goes over, he does buy many DVD's. I dont have any problem with him spending the money he earns.

WOW! Seriously just wow! SOme of you all need to take a chill pill and quit taking everything so seriously!
My dh never buys odd shit he just has a habit of spending money and not telling me. For instance he's spent 80 bucks in 2 weeks on who knows what and didn't tell me. Seeing as the deployment pay hasn't kicked in yet I have no idea where he thinks it's coming from and I don't mind that he's spending it but I surely would like a heads up...LOL

:lmao That reminds me, he bought a custom suit from some Iraqi!!!! I think that was $300 or $400 or something. :hairpull I told him he is funding terrorism :suspect Whoa he went to Dubai!!!!!! That place is nuts! :eek


they're not all terrorists. some are trying to make an honest living.

Honestly, my dh hasn't bought anything that I have had a problem with... we both work and contribute to our family so I have no issue with him spending some money on things to make his life a little easier over there. He doesn't dictate to me how I spend money and I wouldn't tolerate it if he did.

I wouldn't mind him buying an xbox. He needs something to do to keep his mind off of what is going on out there. If he went on a crazy shopping spree, spending everything I could see the concern but not over an xbox. I hope you two can come to some sort of agreement with this spending stuff that makes you both happy.

My DH had to buy a new laptop since his old one died and he bought a new guitar, since he broke his old one. I was completely fine with both of those things, although it did cost us some money. He doesn't have much over there and I know those 2 things are very important to him for his sanity.

Oh honey I know what you mean. DB just bought a new laptop and a bunch of new stuff for his jeep (he has to send that to his parents house) and probably a bunch of stuff I'm not aware of. I keep trying to tell him that if he keeps spending all his money that we won't have anything to live on when he gets back :banghead And then he'll try to butter me up by telling me about how he bought me a really nice ring so his money's going to good use :rolleyes

When Dh was over there he bought a couple things like an MP3 and some cds and a versace jacket but that's it..and we werent even married I dont know what he'll buy this time when he goes but I dont wAnt him to go crazy spending money bc I know how he is

I think that some of the ladies on here took this partially the wrong way. Yes, it's his money. However, she did make the statement that they can't (or decided not to) get married until he's debt free. Therefore, it makes it a part of her life when he spends money on a lot of stuff he really might not need. Plus, it sounds to me like they're living together and that they're money is put together to pay bills and such...which means that it is her business.

Now, that being said...I do agree that we have to give our guys some leeway (did I spell that right?!?!) while they're over there. My DF bought a bunch of stuff while he was over there, but not too much. It was when he got back that he went on a spending spree and spent $4,000 in two weeks!!! Now, THAT was annoying! But he'd just gotten back from a war zone, and although we didn't need the stuff he bought...I figured he deserved it.

Either way, I can see BOTH points of view here. I think she is entitled to her feelings, just as we are entitled to ours. Everyone has a different way of thinking about things, and we all have to be tolerant of that. We also have to realize that sometimes couples have made "deals" with each other about stuff, and maybe she felt a little "let down" because he wasn't following through on his end of their deal (becoming debt free).

Sorry....I have a tendency to write too much! LOL!

Maybe you can ask him to talk it over with you before he spends that much on one thing.

This isn't the first time my words and emoticons were taken very seriously, so I shouldn't be surprised it happened again. I'm not really flipping about it. Sheesh. Things get taken so seriously around here :dunno



Although there is no legally binding documents between him and I, we are very committed to each other, and we are sharing a life together, and that includes our income. So I do have a say. If I wanted your opinion I would ask for it.

Your comments on this thread have really disgusted me. Where's your SO? Is he over there? How would you feel if I threw those words at you? This is the first, and I hope the last time I come on SOS and read something as terrible as that. Thank you for reminding me that every time he leaves base, he can die. And that day in and day out we are in fear of his life. Thanks. As if I don't think that shit enough? Thanks for driving the point home for me. And for anyone else reading this that has someone over there. You have got a lot of nerve. Did you want to break me? You did a good job. PLEASE leave me alone. Stop responding to my threads.

I totally agree with you girl. I support you! It really is no one elses business about your finances with your SO. But it happens! Everyone does there stuff differently. I just hate that she reminded all of us that there is that possibility when he leaves base...well u know the rest i dont even want to say it. Sucks...i felt upset when i read it.

I just hate that she reminded all of us that there is that possibility when he leaves base...

I agree. I can't stand thinking about it. I'll avoid if it's possible. :refuse We are all accutely aware of what's going on with our SOs and it's always in the back of my mind what could happen

My husband is the type to buy a buncch of stuff, he leaves tommorow to Iraq and I told him about this thread to maybe deter him from going crazy. But ehhh....our financial situation is set up in such a way that i couldn't really be mad at him for spending his own money. He gives me the money for rent and all the bills every month, so it's taken out of his check automatically. When he's stateside i live apart from him and he lives at the barracks, so i get all the bah etc. So any money that he has left is basically his to spend because he's paid all the bills already, just like the money i make at work is mine to either save or spend. Hahah so if he spends it all and ends up broke, i will just say "welll...you're the one who wanted the xbox loser:)"

i can understand why she's julianne would be annoyed by his spending though, he is in debt, if my husband were in debt i would probably get on his butt too....spending habbits are important in a marriage, or serious relationship.

If it was my husband and he was in a warzone then I'd probably not say much about money being spent because of the situation that he's having to deal with over there. If it was my boyfriend then there really wouldn't be much I could say period. That's his money and he has no obligation to explain any of his spending and on that same not I have no obligation to explain any of MINE either unless we have a child that he needs to support.... I'd be pissed off big time if I were in his shoes and being questioned about my spending. :dunno

dh bought alot of dvds, dvd player, alot of electronic stuff but i dont complain b/c i was spending bula money when i was back home..haha..and i wouldnt want to cut him off..he might just not give me any $$ anymore..lol..well, we learned from his 1st deployment..now were preparing for his 2nd and were going to save this time...

Mine always seems to forget what size I am when he is gone. LOL He buys me nighties and stuff that are like 2 sized too small for me.

If it was my husband and he was in a warzone then I'd probably not say much about money being spent because of the situation that he's having to deal with over there. If it was my boyfriend then there really wouldn't be much I could say period. That's his money and he has no obligation to explain any of his spending and on that same not I have no obligation to explain any of MINE either unless we have a child that he needs to support.... I'd be pissed off big time if I were in his shoes and being questioned about my spending. :dunno

You're right there is not much I could say if my dh was over there but if I was handling his bills and he was spending more then he should and not paying his bills then heck yea I'd say something.
Also if Matt spends to much over there YES I say something. I have to be able to pay the bills and get groceries to make sure the kids are fed. If he is spending so much that I cannot provide for the kids and pay our bills then heck yea I'm saying something.

I think this was taken too seriously....
Mine was just over there and yes he bought massive amounts of silly stuff and warzone or not I have to keep him in check. And he knows that... he came home with like 6 hats from Patagonia and was like, "What the hell do I need these for?!" When it comes to comfort stuff, like his mini fridge and microwave, I understand. When it starts getting out of control though I say something and that's ok. It's part of what keeps him and us stable while he's away, we keep things normal, like discussing finances, and it works well that way.
Mine bought a not so cheap belly dancer outfit, and let me tell you, it hasn't been used! Also a hookah, we don't smoke anything ever. A Genie lamp?! Ok! A projector, at least 600 bucks! It starts to add up while they are deployed!

I think this was taken too seriously....
Mine was just over there and yes he bought massive amounts of silly stuff and warzone or not I have to keep him in check. And he knows that... he came home with like 6 hats from Patagonia and was like, "What the hell do I need these for?!" When it comes to comfort stuff, like his mini fridge and microwave, I understand. When it starts getting out of control though I say something and that's ok. It's part of what keeps him and us stable while he's away, we keep things normal, like discussing finances, and it works well that way.
Mine bought a not so cheap belly dancer outfit, and let me tell you, it hasn't been used! Also a hookah, we don't smoke anything ever. A Genie lamp?! Ok! A projector, at least 600 bucks! It starts to add up while they are deployed!

thank you some people just dont understand that this was supposed to be funny instead they get angry when she is a lil annoyed and just like many women here i didnt need to be reminded that my hubby could be..well.. and i agree that it keeps things normal dh knows he needs to talk to me about those kinds of purchases and that i need money to pay the bills

Matt has bought a lot of dvds. I'm talking like 5 or 6 a day. I can't blame him though cuz I know if I were over there I'd do the same thing to pass the down time.
He's also bought me a lot of things. The silliest thing was a traditional Islamic outfit, complete with a veil. I really have no idea where I'd wear it!

He didn't have time to buy things as he was on the road basically 24/7 driving all around the country. When he did have time, he bought food (that's right, they didn't provide all his meals for him) and new gear that he needed for his safety. He also bought me presents - I guess he's not a big spender - he knows how deep we are in debt and even if he wanted to, he didn't have time to drive us further into it :shrug

I think my boyfriend is so funny... he seems to break all of his stuff...

Geez so does mine. He broke two digital cameras BEFORE deployment. :arg This time around I got a new one and gave him my old one (and by old I mean I got it last summer when he broke mine at the beach). He sent me an email the other day telling me its making a 'funny sound' honestly I don't even want to know how he managed that...I just smile and laugh. If it has moving parts and batteries my baby can find a way to break it. (If you are counting that makes 4 cameras in our 14 month relationship...I am starting to think about buying some stock in nikon):sigh


Knowing my DB as well as I do I am sooo sure I will be getting the xbox email soon...hey if it makes him happy...

db's money is his own. i make a lot more than he does, so if he wants to spend his, so be it. he spent like $1500 on car mods while he was at sea.

thank you some people just dont understand that this was supposed to be funny instead they get angry when she is a lil annoyed ...

I'm sorry - I guess I missed the humor in

Fucking idiot. I told him so too. I threatened to empty his account and put his money where he can't touch it. I hate when he does stupid shit like that.

It's quite interesting to me that she's turning around saying it was supposed to be funny...but I really think that claim is a backpedal.


Julianne, I'm sorry you're not happy with the way your boyfriend is spending his money, but you can't honestly expect that saying something like this will NOT produce some sort of backlash. And if you DID honestly expect that, I think you may have just learned something for future reference.

ugh oh. let's just all forget about this...the thread is headed downhill.

allot of uneccessary things are being said.

You're right there is not much I could say if my dh was over there but if I was handling his bills and he was spending more then he should and not paying his bills then heck yea I'd say something.
Also if Matt spends to much over there YES I say something. I have to be able to pay the bills and get groceries to make sure the kids are fed. If he is spending so much that I cannot provide for the kids and pay our bills then heck yea I'm saying something.

Oh yeah, but that would have to be an insane amount of money considering all the hazard pay and untaxed wages.

On the first one...$1000 he took to buy Iraqi Dinar....says we will be billionares....whatever. :arg He bought all kinds of local crap too, then shipped it home to a tune of $700. This time :mrgreen, they dont have that, so maybe when he gets home he will not complain about not saving any money.

I agree with what others are saying about needing things for comfort,etc. One of our friends spents thousands upon thousands of dollars in Iraq (not on necesseties) and now he regrets it because he'd have a nice savings right now. But it's okay--because it kept him sane over there.

If Mike deploys (he never has deployed before, but we share an account and have our own separate ones), I would be in charge of his account, and as long as his bills were getting paid, all would be fine. He's a spender by nature, so I know it would be only worse in a warzone.

Anyways, I hope he's doing well, he's in my prayers :hugs

Julianne, OMG I go throw this too - we use to live in Maryland. Too bad I still don't so we could share these 50-60 games. LOL!!! uMMMM beat him to the gun and say I hear Halo 3 is coming out Monday night at midnight. Should I go wait in line for you??? SOOO I know you know allll about:

Gameboy Advance SP
Play Station
Play Station 2
Play Station 3
XBOX
XBOx 360


LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I laughed so hard reading your blog. That shit rules at our house although, I think I'd prefer him screaming and rooting for the Red Sox (his home team) When they won the world series. I kid you not, he JUMPED ON THE COUCH AND SATURDAY NIGHT LIVED IT:weee:weee:weee I was like 'HEY, the windows are open'. YOU GOOF...LOL. Than he cheered again and ran around. OK, it was cool :P The Red Sox killed the Yankees. That's how it should be...:P

Amanda

WOW what a thread this turned into! I don't log on for a couple days and BAM there's 7 new pages on this thread :lol

So I came home today to a pleasant surprise of flowers :wub Yep he sent me flowers. He's not on the shit list anymore :giggle


I just hate that she reminded all of us that there is that possibility when he leaves base...well u know the rest i dont even want to say it. Sucks...i felt upset when i read it.

Isn't it ironic that the mission he left on the night this thread was started, they came under fire and there was an IED? Fortunately everyone is fine, only damage to vehicles.

That's his money and he has no obligation to explain any of his spending and on that same not I have no obligation to explain any of MINE either unless we have a child that he needs to support

Actually I think I failed to mention that he broke the XBox news to me right after I got finished with our dog's vet appointment. His ear infection cost us almost $150. It was originally going to cost $230 but when I saw that I think I actually gasped out loud. I went over the bill with the tech and declined a couple things they wanted to put on the bill, so it ended up (only?) being $140 something. And on top of that, our dog has a baby tooth that never came out, and the adult tooth grew in, and we're scheduling to have it pulled. I can only imagine how much that is going to cost :rolleyes Probably as much as an XBox.

Matt has bought a lot of dvds. I'm talking like 5 or 6 a day. I can't blame him though cuz I know if I were over there I'd do the same thing to pass the down time.
He's also bought me a lot of things. The silliest thing was a traditional Islamic outfit, complete with a veil. I really have no idea where I'd wear it!

You should get a NetFlix subscription. Except they get the DVDs over there of movies that aren't on DVD yet here, so he prob wouldn't be interested in what NetFlix can give you. My boyfriend bought a traditional Islamic outfit too :lol He wanted be a terrorist for Halloween. :lol

SOOO I know you know allll about:

Gameboy Advance SP
Play Station
Play Station 2
Play Station 3
XBOX
XBOx 360


Fortunately, our ex-roommate was more of a fiend than my boyfriend, so he would camp out and buy each new system that came out. Those were the days :lol The guy my boyfriend is rooming with over there said he was going to buy the XBox, but my boyfriend said he was dragging his feet so he just went and got it himself :rolleyes

You know....I *HATE* *HATE* *HATE* Sea commands and long deployments. Mine is glued to electronic stuff (xbox, play station 3, etc) the man gets more calls and texts from the guys in his dept seeking game advice. It's INSAME. I told him he should buy an EB Game store when he retires...But, one day when he was playing and I stood there with my hands on hips thinking he's how old? Laughing to myself thinking 10. I'm ten inside. Giggle. I got grateful in that very instant that he was all intact, unharmed, alive, just being him. Being himself. I know. I know I'm getting off I'm in the middle of a game and can't save. I didn't say anything. I just looked at him. He's like OKAY...I laughed and said your fine. He's trying to play. I'm fine?? as he dances around the tv, you ^%$#* %$# LOL You'd think he was "IN" the game. LOL I said I'm thankful your alive, your here, all intact, not harmed in any way. - - JUST PLAY AWAY!!!!!!!!

Nothing, thank god!

LOL OH II REMEMBER THE FIGHTS ABOUT SPENDING IN IRAQ WIT MY FIRST HUSBAND! HE BOUGHT GUCCI PURSES FOR HIS MOM AND WATCHES FOR HIS SISTER AND HER BF AND A $400 CHIAN (WHICH GOT STOLEN) A LAPTOP, A BIKE AND SO MUCH OTHER JUNK

Oh yeah, but that would have to be an insane amount of money considering all the hazard pay and untaxed wages.

Um yea we are TX residents so the diff in untaxed pay is NOT much and he doesn't get hazard pay. All he gets is Family Sep. SO.....
ALl situations are different