Hey all,

Of course being deployed anywhere for any time period is sure to change your DB,DH,DF in some ways. How though? Towards life? Towards how they feel about you? Can it be for the good or bad?
Just curious. My DB is gone for about6/7 mo's and im just curious of what to expect when he does get back. Do i have to treat him differently right off the bat? Would it be stupid to offer to do some of the things we used to do? Or will he be a diff guy? - He has a pretty strong personality. I wasnt with him then, but i hear he didnt really change when he got out of marine basic. But thats nothing compared to Iraq/kuwait etc..

My dh grew up and got serious.

Lol - sometimes I have to pester him to just joke around.

That's the military for you.

Of course being deployed anywhere for any time period is sure to change your DB,DH,DF in some ways. How though? Towards life? Towards how they feel about you? Can it be for the good or bad? Do i have to treat him differently right off the bat? Would it be stupid to offer to do some of the things we used to do? Or will he be a diff guy?

After his first tour , DB's changes were pretty much [I]allfor the better. He came home and got much more serious about me and about his future. He takes his education and future career plans very seriously now. He enrolled back in college and got better grades than ever before. The bad changes... he gained weight :lol He spent a ton of money on stupid stuff. :sigh

When he gets home, the best thing I can say to do is love him! And be easy on him. Like if he doesn't want to talk, don't prod, etc. If you anticipate changes and overthink it, it may change the way you act with him.. which could cause changes in him. So be yourself. Don't read into things too much. Do things you used to do. He'll find comfort in what's familiar :yes

Mine's just getting back from overseas, and he seems to be more grown up, but not lost his fun playful side..he just seems to look farther into the future, is making more longterm goals (like do we need that electronic or should it go toward a 2nd vehicle)...and honestly he seems to have really gotten his priorities straight.....but we'll see how everything turns out once he's been back longer.

When mine first gets home, for about the first month or so, he's more more introverted, and sometimes seems restless. He's still very loving and affectionate though. As he adjusts to being home, he lightens up and becomes his old self. The first 3 didn't really seem to have a permanent change to his personality. When he came home on R&R in July he was different than he'd been before, but he'd had alot to deal with. His best friend died in his arms, and he took shrapnel damage to his stomach. He still treated me and our daughter like he always has, but sometimes seemed he had to force himself to enjoy his vacation. I've never treated him differently when he comes home, I just love him, and let him know I'm here for him, and let him be himself, and if he needs time alone, I don't force the issue.